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You’re not ready to get married
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1. Intro
You’re not ready for marriage. You’re not ready to get married.
If you’re not ready for marriage, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t eligible for marriage or that you can never be married (although in many cases, it might be true). It means that you should think about getting married in the future, but it doesn’t mean that you need to do so right now.
If a particular woman seems like she is interested in you, then of course you have to marry her. But if she seems like she is not interested and isn’t going to change her mind when things get difficult later on, then your best bet is to wait a little while and see what happens.
2. A Rap Star Opens Up About His Marriage
The record industry is in a key moment, with a fraction of the world’s population (and a fraction of their money) watching their every move. They are facing an onslaught of new technologies that could fundamentally change how they recruit, how they release and how they sell music. This isn’t the only question on their minds. “How do we make money?” is not the only question on your mind … But it’s important to answer sooner rather than later if you want to survive in this new world.
The most immediate thing you can do is to invest in yourself and your company; by putting more money into your company than you ever have before, you will be able to bring about a fundamental paradigm shift for the recording industry. It’s not just about making great music anymore; it’s about creating businesses which are more sustainable and scalable than ever before — one that can replicate itself across different industries, even other kinds of media (although not necessarily for the same reasons).
The first step towards that is improving yourself and building your team; I am going to talk specifically about these things next week (I hope). But I want to share something today: an interview with Jimi Hendrix . Our guest today was a great musician who recorded many classic songs — including some very famous ones you might hear on mainstream radio or in your favorite bands playlists. He started out as a completely unknown 21-year-old guitarist who had no idea what he was doing when he played his first gig as an opening act for The Doors .
This young man changed my life when I met him in person, so I thought I would share some insight into what it means to be successful at any kind of artistic endeavor — whether it’s rock star or geekspeak or writing poetry or anything else. And while it may seem pretentious at first glance, there are huge lessons here that can help anyone go from zero to hero:
1) You don’t need big talent
No talent is good enough. If you’ve never heard of Jimi Hendrix , then you’re either too young or too lazy or too insecure to appreciate what he was doing at this point in his career (or you’re just shit at drawing charts). That doesn’t mean being talented isn’t important; but instead of looking for someone who has huge talent, look for someone who’s willing and able to work hard and do what needs doing despite all obstacles —
3. Postscript: Kanye West and Kim Kardashian Are Married Now
If you have read this far, congratulations. For the rest of you, here’s the postscript: The relationship really is a very complicated one.
The rapper T.I. posted a lengthy comment on his website about it, and then said that he does wish to get married someday, but that he could never marry someone who did not share his values or beliefs (read the whole thing ):
I think that marriage is a wonderful thing and I do believe in having love in your life but I also believe in boundaries as well. [..] we’re drawn to each other but we’re not defined by each other…I find myself kind of confused when I see people marry their first love or second love because it’s been years since they were together…The more time goes by, the more complicated [it] gets — it’s like black magic!
Postscript: Kanye West and Kim Kardashian Are Married Now A few years ago I was asked to write an article about marriage for some “broadcast” media outlets (the name escapes me). When I saw their request for an “idea” for the piece, my first thought was that I would be doing them a favor if I came up with something ridiculous (and if you know me at all you’ll know that such thoughts are not uncommon). My second thought was that if my partner Kevin found out about this project he would have had a stroke from embarrassment — imagine him writing something so idiotic? But it turned out he didn’t mind as much as I did; after all, we had already made up our minds before going into this project! So much has happened since then — we were recently married two days after starting our blog — but before then there were many others who liked what we wrote on marriage, so of course now there are many others who don’t. Our audience is broad — it includes all kinds of people who are interested in marriage as well as those who don’t even care whether they can actually get married someday (myself included at times) — and almost everyone knows someone who could use some advice on how to avoid being in a
4. A Look Back At The Recording Session That Changed Kanye West’s Life
This is a fascinating story, which was covered by The New York Times, The Guardian and Quartz in February 2014.
Kanye West is famous for his rants on everything from the music industry to artists like Jay-Z, who he claims are using their fame to hide their lack of support of children. His latest rant is about marriage and how it should be a very different experience now than it was in the early 2000s. It’s nothing new for Kanye to talk about sex and relationships in general terms, but this time he’s taking it a step further: He’s saying that marriage should be different from what it was when he got married.
It makes sense that Kanye would say this after 24 years of marriage; when you’re at the top of your game you don’t really care about other people — you want to do things right for yourself first, and then focus on getting the rest of your loved ones off your back. But this is one of those rare moments where we can see exactly how much has changed since 2003.
In 2003, Apple co-founder Steve Jobs had recently announced that Apple Inc would stop making its own computers after 2011 (and would start selling them through partners). This change was due to be implemented through a “no-compromise” strategy: it meant no more major features or breakthrough technologies; all new products would have a similar design philosophy from day one (with the exception of introductions like “iPad mini”). They also wanted to make sure that all employees knew what products were coming out and when — so they could plan ahead as well as implement features on schedule. No more surprises!
Fast forward 10 years. Apple has announced that they will not produce any new products at all in 2013 (they will continue to sell current models albeit with fewer features), though they have kept the same software update process for customers who already own their hardware: For those who buy an iPhone 4S or 5 (or later) between today and September 30th 2014, Apple will automatically install iOS 9 — without your having to do anything! And if you bought an iPhone 5C or 6 (or later) between today and September 30th 2014? iOS 9 will be automatically installed as well!
This is only one part of Apple’s strategy: they are reducing all non-Apple hardware sales by 50% between now and 2015 “to save money.” A year ago such a move made
5. Conclusion
This is an excerpt from a reading I gave at the TDCF offices in September. It was called the “What’s Your Product?” workshop, and it covered some of the common questions that startups ask about products, including:
● What is my product?
● Can I build it myself?
● What do you think of this idea?
● How much will this cost? (and so on)
This workshop was a lot of fun to give, and I hope you find it useful. If you are interested in attending future workshops or want more information on how to charge for them, please get in touch. I will try to be back as soon as I can 🙂